“Life After Divorce” Part 1 of 2: by Atticus Legal Group Main Page
Divorce is traumatic for all parties involved. Divorce is a major life change in circumstances, often a move in location, and also an adjustment in financial means. With all the transitions occurring at once, it is essential to hire a sympathetic attorney for your divorce proceedings. The attorney will help you prepare for the financial changes in pension or retirement plans, child support or maintenance, custody arrangements, division of property and debt, and alimony. Together with the attorney you will plan for visitation and responsibilities for child care.
Attorneys in Salt Lake City, Sandy, or Provo know that the divorce outcome affects the petitioner for the rest of their lives, so the attorney is careful to counsel you for the best positive outcome. The attorney will guide you to the court mandated Divorce Education class, and suggest the Divorce Orientation Class for minor children. The attorney will arrange a mediator if parties cannot agree on property separation or children, and propose prearrangements for child custody, parental visitation, use of the home, and debt repayment.
After divorce, when all the paperwork is over, is the time to deal with goals and dreams. As a newly single person, it will be an adjustment just to thinking singly instead of jointly. This is the time to be flexible and reflect upon where you want your life to go. Self-examination and an inventory of strengths and weaknesses may reveal an area where personal growth is lacking. This is a good time to pursue educational goals or new job skills training. This is a positive change for the future and goals should mirror the possibilities of your new life.
If you have a penchant for travel, set a goal for saving for a cruise. Begin exploring cruise lines and cruise packages. This is a good time to set a fitness goal and begin a new daytime regime. Look at nutrition plans and start eating healthy. There are so many opportunities for you to create a new self while in the single state of mind. What have you always wanted to do but were afraid to try? Now is the time to pull those dusty dreams out of the cobwebs and begin to fly!
If you have children, setting a routine and a regular schedule for them will help with the divorce transition. Children adapt better when the atmosphere in their home is calm. Children look to their parents to set the tone for their reaction, so if the parent is accepting and relaxed, the child will be also. Children embrace change when it is presented with a positive attitude. Establish a new routine that enforces a regular meal time, snack time and play time. Clear a place at the table for a study station and have a specific plan for tv viewing or disruptions. Arrange folders for homework review and a place for teacher correspondence so the child knows where to place things that need parental signatures. Create a bedtime routine of bath, relaxing story, and a drink of water thirty minutes before lights out. Organization within the home is a positive way to establish boundaries and new habits.
By Atticus Legal Group
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